Peer polyamory & sex coach
Charli Lue
Charli Lue is a peer polyamory and sex coach based in Staffordshire, writing about the interpersonal side of ethical non-monogamy: how to talk about desires without pressure, navigate jealousy, and design relationship structures that actually work. Their work emphasises honesty, pacing, and mutual respect.
charlilue.comArticles by Charli Lue
Navigate Multiple Relationships with These Essential Polyamory Communication Tools
A practical guide to communication systems that make polyamory more sustainable: check-ins, scheduling, agreements, jealousy tools, and conflict frameworks.
14 min read
How to Safely Introduce Kink Into a Relationship
A step-by-step guide to introducing kink into an existing relationship - how to bring it up, how to start slowly, and how to keep both partners feeling safe and respected.
9 min read
Where to Find a Comprehensive Kink Questionnaire for Couples
A guide to using kink questionnaires and compatibility tools as a couple - what to look for, how they work, and why MyCherryCV's approach goes deeper than most.
7 min read
Apps to Discover Sexual Interests With a Partner
A review of the best apps and tools for couples who want to explore sexual compatibility - how they work, what they cover, and what to consider before using them.
7 min read
Ethical Considerations for Exploring Non-Vanilla Preferences
A thoughtful guide to the ethical dimensions of kink and non-vanilla sexuality - consent, power, communication, and how to explore responsibly.
10 min read
Kink Shaming: What It Is and How to Respond to It
An honest look at kink shaming - what it is, where it comes from, how it affects people, and practical ways to handle it whether it comes from a partner, friend, or yourself.
8 min read
How Do I Know If I'm Into Kink?
A self-reflection guide for people who are curious about kink but unsure whether it's for them - what the signs look like, how to explore safely, and how to tell curiosity from pressure.
8 min read
What Are the Rules at a Kink Party?
A complete guide to kink party etiquette and rules - what to expect, how to behave, consent norms, and how to prepare for your first event.
9 min read
The Kink Safety Protocol: A Complete Guide
A comprehensive breakdown of kink safety - from safewords and risk awareness to physical and emotional safety practices that every practitioner should know.
11 min read
What Are the Signs of an Unhealthy Kink Dynamic?
How to tell the difference between healthy kink and an unhealthy or abusive dynamic - the red flags, the grey areas, and what to do if something feels wrong.
9 min read
Are Kinks Unhealthy? What the Research Actually Says
A direct, evidence-based answer to whether kinks are psychologically unhealthy - what the research shows, what the mental health consensus is, and when kink does become a problem.
8 min read
Aftercare: What It Is and Why It Matters
Aftercare is one of the most important - and most overlooked - parts of kink. This guide explains what it is, why it's necessary, and how to make it work for both partners.
8 min read
Soft Limits vs Hard Limits: How to Negotiate Kink Boundaries
Understand the difference between soft and hard limits, how to build a shared limits list with a partner, and why boundary negotiation makes kink safer and more satisfying.
8 min read
How to Talk About Kink With a Partner
A practical guide to starting honest, comfortable conversations about kink, desires, and limits - without awkwardness or pressure.
7 min read
BDSM for Beginners: Everything You Need to Know
A complete, judgment-free introduction to BDSM - what it is, how it works, the key safety principles, and how to start exploring responsibly.
10 min read